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The Re-Culturalization of the Veil in Kuwait (from a Non-Veiled Persepective)

Look, I am not a veiled woman. I can’t tell you what it feels like to walk under 100 degree heat with nearly every inch of my skin covered. I can’t say that I know how it feels like to navigate a clothing store with the length and width specifications that veiled women need to be culturally or religiously mindful of. I’m not even going to pretend to understand what it feels like for a woman to both try and express her identity through her appearance while simultaneously trying to project an exterior image of Islamic piety.

These are all experiences which I have never really grappled with all that much because I am not a veiled woman. So I’m not going to be talking about the veiled woman’s experience with the physical act of wearing a veil in any way. That said, I am totally fascinated with this new veiling phenomena which seems to be sweeping up Kuwait and dividing women up into sub-cultures of a sub-culture.

This divisive phenomena being, of course, the turban.

Now, if you live in Kuwait, you know how it is. Kuwait is the melting pot of virtually every trend ever created in the history of time and space. It’s Habba Land; Habba Nation; freaking Habba-palooza. One popular person starts doing something a little different and, before you know it, every other starry-eyed onlooker is doing it too. This is the natural progression of pretty much every trend to come about in Kuwait and probably everywhere else too.

And, hey, people will always have opinions on trends (I certainly do). Man or woman, veiled or not: you have a right to express your opinion on every single thing that you see, hear, or think. As long as you’re respectful about it, you can lovingly praise or endlessly rail on any trend you want. But, there’s something a little different about this turban thing.

You see, the turban trend does something more than divide people up in the ‘Hot’ or ‘Not’ camps: it divides them up in ‘feminine” and ‘unfeminine’ camps too. Or the ‘Islamic’ and ‘non-Islamic.’ Or the ‘Arab’ and ‘Non-Arab.’ And suddenly, whether we’ve realized it or not, by having a vocal (and sometimes very mean) opinion on the turban trend, people in Kuwait are actively reshaping what it means for a Muslim, Arab woman to embody all of these terms.

So, the big question is why is this happening? I mean, in Kuwait, trends have come and trends have gone. Trends are transient things that weave in and out of Kuwaiti, daily life–usually without carrying more weight than the trends that came before them or after them. People either hop on the wagon or they don’t. And freaking fashion trends? Those suckers come a dime a dozen in Kuwait. Big-freakin’-deal.

But the turban isn’t just a fashion trend. In many cases, it can be considered a specifically ‘Islamic’ trend (because of its affiliation with the hijab). Even better: the turban is an Islamic trend with a twist. Its unconventionally Islamic. So unconventional in its Islamic-ness (I would say ‘Islamism’ but no) that even the most moderate, liberal Muslims are giving it a double-take. And, naturally, this can be a little troubling. Because the turban doesn’t fit the conservative mold of what a veiled woman is supposed to conventionally represent in the Arab world.

In the deeply conservative Arab dynamic, a part of a woman’s duty–and the thing which deems her ‘feminine’ and ‘right’– is to project a mixed aura of demure and modest prettiness. Sure, you’ve gotta look pretty but you can’t look kinda out there while you’re doing it. In this conservative sort of dynamic all the woman really has to do is to make herself look both modest and desirable (which, yes, can be a feat) and then just sit back and wait to be chosen.

The most glaringly obvious symbol of this kind of deep Arab conservatism is, unsurprisingly, the traditional hijab. I’m not saying that this is how all, or even most, traditionally veiled women operate, I’m just giving a quick overview of what a very deeply conservative idea of womanhood is to Arabs and what it means for an Arab woman to physically embody that.

You can agree or disagree with this dynamic, but you really can’t deny its validity all that much.

And on the flip-side, you’ve got the turban (popularized and oh so graciously modeled by tres-fableux, fashion-maven Ascia up there). I’ve heard religious zealots rail on about it; Holly Housewives; fashionably progressive women; full-grown men; children; even my 72 year old, housebound grandmother WHO ROCKED THE JACKIE-O LOOK IN HER DAY. Everyone has such a strong, and in many cases negative, reaction to the turban its crazy.

And yet all kinds of women are sporting it all over Kuwait. Only difference that I’ve been able to notice between these women and the other traditionally veiled but still totally awesome women is that the turban-wearers couldn’t give a flying dingbat about subscribing to any age-old ideas of Arab conservatism. I’m not saying that any woman who doesn’t wear a turban is a complete slave to patriarchal standards (well, I think all women are but whatevs). I’m just saying that the turban-wearers at least seem a lot more willing to step out of that comfort-zone and maybe try to create a fashion culture for Muslim women outside of the traditionally acceptable, ‘modestly pretty’ concept–even if they really are just following a trend.

And if you ask me, whether you like the turban or not, it sure sounds like a much more socially enhancing and culturally promising trend than this class-act right here.

All my love!

I Might As Well Make My Nails Look Like Duck Feet – The Henna Fingers Trend

Look, I am always down for a good manicure. When I’m feeling wild and fun, I go for crazy colors and designs I’ve never been courageous enough to try before. When I’m feeling all classed-up and feminine I go for the classic, timeless red or le Français. In fact, when I’m feeling just about anything there is always a shade of nail polish that reciprocates that feeling.

And its not just nail polish here. Almost every girl I know can probably attest to the healing and the cheering powers of how adorning our hands with ANYTHING–be it bracelets, rings, nail polish, or henna–can make us feel pretty.

But there’s this new henna trend that, apparently, has been catching on in Kuwait and that I don’t think will make me feel all that glammed up and beautified: the ‘Henna Fingers’ trend, which follows right in tow behind last  year’s ‘Henna Glove’ trend.

Don’t get me wrong: the ‘Henna Glove’ thing was kind of cute. It had a delicate charm about it that spoke to the cultures and traditions of the Gulf/Arab World in a cool, modern way. I never did it but I didn’t mind it at all either. However, I’ve got a whole other opinion on this ‘Henna Fingers’ deal.

Now, for those of you that don’t know what the ‘Henna Fingers’ trend is, its basically dying the fingers of your hands up until the middle (or “intermediate phalanges” to sound like a Wikipedia-bound, obnoxious loser) in black henna. That’s about it.

MeBlogging‘s brilliantly shot and styled Fortune Cookie photo shoot with the stunning Ascia, of Hybrid Headpiece awesomeness, shows some examples of this. There are also plenty of pictures of the gorg’, and oh so chic Ascia sporting this trend on her blog (in which I also found the above picture).

Now, of course, this is all a matter of my own personal taste. For all I know this could become the hottest, most loved, and most fashionably worthy trend of them all. To me, it feels like it might transform my fingers into tiny, burnt sausages; make them look like hoofs; or give an impression of a severe case of gangrene.

And if I was going to subject my fingers to that kind of visual brutality, then I might as well make my nails look like duck feet while I’m at it too.

But again, that could be just me.

All my love!

Today on the Menu: PLACENTA AND OTHER ICKY STUFF.

Today I made a startling discovery. I found out that placenta–as in the connective tissue between a mother and a fetus and that comes out of a women after she gives birth in an icky, bloody, and disgusting mess–can make for an actual meal. Yeah, as in you can cook it in the oven, season it with salt and pepper, and serve it for dinner.

Or, if you’re squeamish, you can turn it into a pill and start popping those bad boys January Jones style!

Now, barf-factor aside, some people are indeed claiming that eating your own afterbirth is actually a nourishing and “calming” experience. Others, of course, are calling the whole thing out as a pointless fad which actually leads to nowhere. And, really, it’s pretty difficult to actually lay claims on the fact of whether or not this new “eat thyself” trend is actually useful or even necessary.

I mean, sure, almost every mammal on the planet eats their own placenta and I’m sure that, sometime along our own evolutionary curve, we have as well. But, uhm, haven’t we evolved past that evolutionary phase by now? My mom seems to have had me and my siblings without so much as tasting a sliver of her own placenta (Yekh!) and we all turned out okay. Just sayin’.

So is eating your placenta (basically your own innards) such an insane thing to consider? I guess not. Are there other, more evolved and clinically tested alternatives available to those of us who find the whole idea way too stomach-churning to handle (RIGHT HERE)? Of course.

Is there anything wrong, unnatural, or harmful with choosing to go either way? Absolutely not.

Although you might want to think twice about taking maternity advice from celebrities. I mean, sure, January Jones pops placenta pills but Alicia Silverstone feeds her child like a freaking bird.

All my love!

“Am I Ugly?” – As a Matter of Fact, You’re Not.

So, apparently, there’s been a new trend going around Youtube lately and finding out about it kind of put me in the dumps and made me put on that sad duck-face I make when I’m just absolutely downhearted about something.

Basically, its now the trend for teenage girls (and some guys too) to post videos of themselves onto Youtube asking for people to comment and inform them of whether or not they are “ugly.” Just search ‘Am I Ugly?’ on Youtube and there they’ll all be–a sea of insecurity and adolescence.

Now, while I was absolutely horrified to see SO MANY TEENAGERS (and I’m talking hundreds upon hundreds here) posting such obviously spiritless videos of themselves asking people to validate them and completely surrendering their right to define and own their bodies themselves, I cannot say I was shocked by it.

I mean, come on, its basically the same reason the Facebook ‘like’ button was created.

We as people naturally require validation. BIG DUH. This is just nothing new. And, really, nothing that anyone on the planet is immune from. Any person who tells you that they have absolutely no interest in anything anyone says about them is a FLAT-OUT LIAR. We all have self-image issues, and no amount of Dove Beauty Campaigns will completely remedy this (although, good on ya Dove! Keep plugging away at the self-boosting!).

BUT! This Youtube trend is taking this natural self-conscious need for validation we all have to a VERY dangerous place. It allows for a mega-form of cyber bullying which is very difficult (if not impossible) to stop because these kids are pretty much asking to be bullied. They are exposing themselves to an unstoppable surge of hate and false criticism from the only place in the world WHERE THE HATERS OF THE WORLD UNITE.

I swear, some of the comments that I found on those videos were so scathing and hurtful that I just cannot repeat them. And while there was a share of positive or guiding words for these vulnerable teenagers, the much more vast majority was a whole lot of negative and indescribably mean commentary. And the really annoying thing is that many of these cyber bullies don’t have a face or a name or any real path towards finding out their true identity in the same way that something like Facebook or Twitter might.

They basically have carte blanche to be horrible humans. And these girls (again, and some guys) are allowing them to be.

It makes me upset on so many levels to see kids who are already vulnerable enough opening themselves up to so much potential psychological scarring. If they require validation that much they should at least ask for it from people in their circle of family and friends–these are the people who will tell them the truth.

The truth being that someone, somewhere in this world, will find them absolutely beautiful and breathtaking for sure.

And that’s not just coddling talk. That’s statistical and anthropological data that tells you that the world is made up of so many people now that the standards of beauty are so various and diverse that pretty much every kind of woman and man is considered beautiful somewhere.

So for any teenagers reading this:  please don’t grant the cyber bullies their freaking dream and allow them and their hurtful, anonymous words to try and define you. Just remember: to someone, somewhere, you are drop dead gorgeous and that is a matter of goddamn fact.

All my love!

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