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The Re-Culturalization of the Veil in Kuwait (from a Non-Veiled Persepective)

Look, I am not a veiled woman. I can’t tell you what it feels like to walk under 100 degree heat with nearly every inch of my skin covered. I can’t say that I know how it feels like to navigate a clothing store with the length and width specifications that veiled women need to be culturally or religiously mindful of. I’m not even going to pretend to understand what it feels like for a woman to both try and express her identity through her appearance while simultaneously trying to project an exterior image of Islamic piety.

These are all experiences which I have never really grappled with all that much because I am not a veiled woman. So I’m not going to be talking about the veiled woman’s experience with the physical act of wearing a veil in any way. That said, I am totally fascinated with this new veiling phenomena which seems to be sweeping up Kuwait and dividing women up into sub-cultures of a sub-culture.

This divisive phenomena being, of course, the turban.

Now, if you live in Kuwait, you know how it is. Kuwait is the melting pot of virtually every trend ever created in the history of time and space. It’s Habba Land; Habba Nation; freaking Habba-palooza. One popular person starts doing something a little different and, before you know it, every other starry-eyed onlooker is doing it too. This is the natural progression of pretty much every trend to come about in Kuwait and probably everywhere else too.

And, hey, people will always have opinions on trends (I certainly do). Man or woman, veiled or not: you have a right to express your opinion on every single thing that you see, hear, or think. As long as you’re respectful about it, you can lovingly praise or endlessly rail on any trend you want. But, there’s something a little different about this turban thing.

You see, the turban trend does something more than divide people up in the ‘Hot’ or ‘Not’ camps: it divides them up in ‘feminine” and ‘unfeminine’ camps too. Or the ‘Islamic’ and ‘non-Islamic.’ Or the ‘Arab’ and ‘Non-Arab.’ And suddenly, whether we’ve realized it or not, by having a vocal (and sometimes very mean) opinion on the turban trend, people in Kuwait are actively reshaping what it means for a Muslim, Arab woman to embody all of these terms.

So, the big question is why is this happening? I mean, in Kuwait, trends have come and trends have gone. Trends are transient things that weave in and out of Kuwaiti, daily life–usually without carrying more weight than the trends that came before them or after them. People either hop on the wagon or they don’t. And freaking fashion trends? Those suckers come a dime a dozen in Kuwait. Big-freakin’-deal.

But the turban isn’t just a fashion trend. In many cases, it can be considered a specifically ‘Islamic’ trend (because of its affiliation with the hijab). Even better: the turban is an Islamic trend with a twist. Its unconventionally Islamic. So unconventional in its Islamic-ness (I would say ‘Islamism’ but no) that even the most moderate, liberal Muslims are giving it a double-take. And, naturally, this can be a little troubling. Because the turban doesn’t fit the conservative mold of what a veiled woman is supposed to conventionally represent in the Arab world.

In the deeply conservative Arab dynamic, a part of a woman’s duty–and the thing which deems her ‘feminine’ and ‘right’– is to project a mixed aura of demure and modest prettiness. Sure, you’ve gotta look pretty but you can’t look kinda out there while you’re doing it. In this conservative sort of dynamic all the woman really has to do is to make herself look both modest and desirable (which, yes, can be a feat) and then just sit back and wait to be chosen.

The most glaringly obvious symbol of this kind of deep Arab conservatism is, unsurprisingly, the traditional hijab. I’m not saying that this is how all, or even most, traditionally veiled women operate, I’m just giving a quick overview of what a very deeply conservative idea of womanhood is to Arabs and what it means for an Arab woman to physically embody that.

You can agree or disagree with this dynamic, but you really can’t deny its validity all that much.

And on the flip-side, you’ve got the turban (popularized and oh so graciously modeled by tres-fableux, fashion-maven Ascia up there). I’ve heard religious zealots rail on about it; Holly Housewives; fashionably progressive women; full-grown men; children; even my 72 year old, housebound grandmother WHO ROCKED THE JACKIE-O LOOK IN HER DAY. Everyone has such a strong, and in many cases negative, reaction to the turban its crazy.

And yet all kinds of women are sporting it all over Kuwait. Only difference that I’ve been able to notice between these women and the other traditionally veiled but still totally awesome women is that the turban-wearers couldn’t give a flying dingbat about subscribing to any age-old ideas of Arab conservatism. I’m not saying that any woman who doesn’t wear a turban is a complete slave to patriarchal standards (well, I think all women are but whatevs). I’m just saying that the turban-wearers at least seem a lot more willing to step out of that comfort-zone and maybe try to create a fashion culture for Muslim women outside of the traditionally acceptable, ‘modestly pretty’ concept–even if they really are just following a trend.

And if you ask me, whether you like the turban or not, it sure sounds like a much more socially enhancing and culturally promising trend than this class-act right here.

All my love!

Es.Ca.Pade: Here’s to Local Flair, Cultural Identity, and Backpacking!

Look, I love travel. Which, I know, is about as shocking a revelation as announcing that I loved kittens or, I don’t know, Diet Coke. I get it: pretty much every normal human being with a pulse loves to travel.

We’ve all got an allotted number of far flung countries and enchanting places waiting to be checked off of our own personal bucket list. I’ll spare you the trouble of sharing my list because it could, quite literally, take several hours to finish. But, needless to say, there is nearly nothing on the planet that I can find more exciting than hopping one plane after the next, doing nothing but exploring endlessly wild and fascinating cultures and settings.

And you know no globe-trotting, culture-loving travel bucket list is ever complete without a nod to pretty much all of Europe.

I mean, its seriously one of my life’s biggest and dearest dreams to visit Illiers-Combray: a small commune in north central France which inspired the setting for my favorite book by my favorite author of all time: Marcel Proust’s ‘Swann’s Way.’ I also think I may shed a few tears if I ever find myself standing at 102 Boulevard Haussmann, Paris: the apartment where Proust actually lived as he worked on his timeless masterpieces.

If any of you would like to finance a trip to Paris in the near future, I am on board!

So I was honestly beyond excited and intrigued when I got to attend the Es.Ca.Pade event which the Pink Coffee marketing and PR team held a few days ago. If you don’t know about Es.Ca.Pade, its basically an annual trip which takes a few lucky individuals (I believe the number is close to 20) on a specific and rather unique journey every year for about three weeks time. The first trip was to Goa, India, the second was a trip around the US, and this year is going to be a backpacking trip across Europe.

That’s right: a trip which spans all the way from Barcelona, Spain to Saint Petersburg, Russia. So, basically, the whole freaking continent. And, considering that this is a backpacking trip, you’ll be having more culture-delving, local-schmoozing experiences rather than the mind-numbing, month long shopping sprees most people are used to.

You’ll stay at hostels, mingle with the local communities, and take part in everything that makes these cities unique and worthwhile on a cultural and personal level, all while carrying your precious worldly belongings on your back (Hello! Backpacking!). So expect to be on your feet and on the go most of the time, and expect to score some major fitness points!

Now, I’ve never been one of those girls that likes to live inside malls and shopping centers ESPECIALLY when I travel. I’m all about soaking in the local flair and exploring all the hidden secrets that make every city special. So, if you ask me, this is about as perfect as any trip can possibly get. Seriously: if time constraints and big, adult life things didn’t get in the way, I would sign up for this trip in a freaking heartbeat!

If you enjoy travel (so, again, if you have a pulse) and want to do more than just make your wallet cry, I definitely recommend you check this year’s Es.Ca.Pade trip out! Based on what I’ve heard from people who have joined their previous trips, the Es.Ca.Pade team is very organized, hospitable, and knows what to do and where to go in order to make sure that you get every penny’s (or fils?) worth of good times and even better memories.

If you’d like to contact Es.Ca.Pade you can find them on Twitter and Instagram @escapadeq8 or apply for the trip online at their website.

All my love!

Ramadan Mubarak Everyone! Let’s All Get Fat and Happy!

Well, its official: Ramadan is finally upon us, and I am excited. And happily comforted. And getting out the sweat pants.

Look, like many of my fellow Muslims, I absolutely love Ramadan. Its one of those months that puts me at ease and delights me in more ways than one.

And, in Kuwait, Ramadan takes on a special flavor all its own. It’s a month long festival of eating, trashy television, and amusing little social traditions that makes Kuwait the one and only place I’d ever really want to be during this beautiful month.

So, as a special homage to this month that everyone enjoys in one way or another (admit it–you love those deep fried dumpling ball delights), here’s a list of all the things that I personally find endearing, amusing, worthwhile, and just plain awesome about Ramadan and spending it in Kuwait.

  • The Make Up Magic Trick – In the daylight every woman looks plain as a milkmaid but come sun down they ALL transform themselves back into vixens of the night (or the Witches of Eastwick) AT LIGHTENING SPEED. The secret? We keep the lipstick hidden in our boots all army-like.
  • Three words: GRANDMOTHER’S WALNUT ATAYEF. - ‘Nuff said.
  • Flex Them Commercial Muscles, Boys! – Ramadan is to Kuwait what the Superbowl is to the US: It’s a commercial bonanza! Everyone awaits in anticipation the crazy awesome and super creative Ramadan commercials that all the companies put out in celebration of this holy month. My favorites so far? The Wataniya ad, NBK, and Quality-Net’s side splitting Indian rom-com ad.
  • Television “so bad, it’s good.” – Of course, the reason why so many companies try to flex their commercial muscles in Ramadan is because TV watching is pretty much a national sport during this month. Turn on your television at any and all hours of the day and you will inevitably find a drama-packed series, a willowy biopic, or a jazzed up game show awaiting your watching pleasure. Head on over to Couch Avenue and check out Jacqui’s uber amazing Ramadan TV schedule for all the details.
  • That Feeling – You know the one. It’s that feeling of transcendent peace and unity that radiates in your chest whenever everyone sits down together for futoor after anxiously awaiting the sound of the cannons at Nayef Palace. That lingering warmth that fills the room whenever we all gather around for tea and my grandmother comes in with her tray full of assorted delights. The glowing, quiet happiness in standing in the Grand Mosque on Laylit Al-Qadr, hands raised and voice trembling. All of Kuwait is bathed in an aura of goodwill and spiritual comfort I’m not really sure I can put into words. It’s just a feeling I get that I can’t imagine getting anywhere else but Kuwait. It’s the reason why I take special care to spend every Ramadan in Kuwait, surrounded by this elusively wonderful “feeling.”

So, have a wonderful Ramadan everyone! Be sure to eat up, keep the Qur’an (and the remote) in hand, and cherish this beautiful month for everything that’s its worth before it passes you by and leaves you, once again, without my grandmother’s PERFECT atayef (or maybe that’s just me).

All my love! (Photo credit: AP/Kevin Frayer)

The Kuwaiti Example of Consumer Culture: “Right, But I Have a 1D.”

That clip up there is from the awesome, new, HBO comedy series, Veep (pronounced V.P.). In it is an example of a cultural syndrome that I see quite a lot of in Kuwait: I call it the ‘Look How Shiny!’ syndrome.

You know, its the obsession people seem to have with how ‘cool and shiny’ something looks or feels or sounds irregardless of whether or not they even understand, need, or can actually utilize this ‘cool and shiny’ value.

Now, I’m not going to tell you that I live like a Tibetan monk and that I have absolutely no regard for items of a higher aesthetic value (I. E. bling-bling). That would be very, very untrue. But, I have to say, that when I do buy an item with a higher cool-factor that’s hardly the only thing I take into consideration. Like if I was to buy an item with a distinctive name-brand, I wouldn’t buy it just because of the name. I’d buy it because I actually need it, can use it often, AND because of the name.

This is, of course, provided that I don’t find or already have an item of the (relatively) same aesthetic and technical value under perhaps a less pricey name brand. However, in most cases, the really high quality products only come from the really high name brands so you usually don’t find any other exact alternative for what those upscale brands have to offer.

POINT IS! I have nothing against people factoring in an item’s “Look How Shiny!” effect into their purchase. I just find it kind of odd (and slightly funny) when that’s all they factor in.

Take the new Galaxy SIII (yes, I know I’m not the first). To use a cliche from the late 90′s, everyone and their mother is going rabidly insane over this phone in Kuwait. Seriously, it is flying off the shelves faster than you can say “Indiana Jones.” (Watch Notting Hill to get that reference.)

And I noticed that a lot of the people who had migrated so easily and thoughtlessly over from their iPhone 4/4S or from their newest Blackberry (I can’t keep up with those edition numbers) were previously quite happy with their old, relatively cool and shiny smart phones. Meaning that, before the Galaxy SIII came along, they had no complaints and, as far they were concerned, were totally hunky-dory with their already popular, awesome looking device.

Now, look, I’m not saying that the Galaxy SIII isn’t a fine-looking, technologically worthy device. Far from it. I’ve heard of a lot of rave reviews that speak for it’s great capabilities and its fantastic specs. And, yes, it does look très cool.

But, uhm, I’ve already got a phone that has all the capabilities I could possibly need and also looks fresh to death. Sure, my iPhone 4 has been around for a while now, but it’s still a super popular phone in its own right. So why would I need to go out and spend crazy wads of cash on another device just because it’s slightly more popular?

I recently had a conversation with a friend of mine who traded her iPhone 4S for the Galaxy SIII about why she chose to switch over and, I swear to God, the very first reason that came out of her mouth was, “because everyone loves it.” Every other quasi-technological reason she gave me could easily be found in her iPhone 4S. So, the bottom line was she bought the Galaxy SIII because “OH MY GOD, LOOK HOW SHINY!”

And, this is something I’ve noticed on more than one occasion in Kuwait and have had previous curiosities about. This unexplained syndrome people seem to have with owning something just because it looks cool EVEN THOUGH they already have something that is almost equally cool and functional to their personal needs.

It is a slightly comical quandary that I cannot help but quietly giggle and scratch my head at every single time.

All my love!

Saudi Arabia Bans Shoe Shopping iPhone Game for Sounding “Too Sexual”

Yeah, cause THIS is what we need right now.

So apparently Saudi Arabia has decided that the inhabitants of its country are half-human mammals and will immediately get aroused upon hearing the sound of a tiny woman in a game make low grunting noises as she jumps from platform to platform, shopping bag in hand, trying to catch some shoes. The title of this game is the very sultry, very suggestive, and oh so provocative Shoe Wars.

I’m sure this makes Arabs look super normal and well-adjusted and not like a weirdly stunted sub-species at all.

Again, this practice of trying to regulate people’s thoughts and censoring their surroundings and their experiences to a degree which hinges on the insulting and the degrading is, unfortunately, not new. The same kind of mindless “sexual” label was placed on the work of Kuwaiti artist Shurooq Amin less than a month ago.

And, coming from someone who’s actually pretty conservative herself, is it just me or are these people simply hellbent on finding some kind of sexual angle in almost every single item that crosses their path?

I can only come up with two logical explanations: They’re either suffering from their own deep-seated psychological issues of repression and are making the entire country suffer unfairly for their own depravity or, more likely, they’re just misogynist trolls who are veiling their constant fear of losing any power with the false notions of cultural, religious, and moral offense to something as ridiculous as a freaking iPhone game (which you can conveniently download here).

All my love!

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